Thursday, February 19, 2009

He's just not that into you.

"He is a man made up entirely of your excuses. And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from your life"- Greg Behrendt. 

As the title says, this post is a little informational on how to tell if he's just not that into you. I had a loooong discussion with my best friend Dishaun and he had a lot to say about it. Notice how some signs are universal and crosses the gender line. But ladies realize the quote above is absolutely essential to you sanity and discovering when its time to let it go.

What I'm saying is the excuses will keep you where your at: in a half assed relationship thingy that you can't even define. And that sucks, I k now from personal and recent experience. Let's make 2009 the year when he IS not only a little bit into us, but he has to be "all in".lol. Something my best friend said last night that struck a chord with me is "you shouldn't be talking to somebody and wondering if they like you". Which is so true. As advanced as I thought my game was, I realized I gotta lot of learning to do as far as men go.anyways enough with my yappin, here's the list:

He's just not that into you if:
1.He doesn't call/text promptly (universal sign)

2.You only here from him at 2am and NEVER in the are a booty call, honey let it go (but sometimes a girl need a booty call if its just that, get it girl...just don't catch feelings)

3.If he likes you, he'll make time for you (no matter how busy he is, stop making excuses for him)

4.Mainly for New Haven if he goes to jail and then is suddenly interested in you, he he using you!!!!! He's probably writitng

5.If he doesn't pay for dates (like everytine you go out). He's not that into I mean,dang. (Girl you can do better)

6.If he compliments your looks, body,sex,etc ONLY...he is attracted to you sexually, but if he can't notice your mind, your style,etc then he's into you physically....but not THAT into you.(Again don't settle for that)

7.If he bags you in front of his friends (say at a party), if he doesn't pull you over privately to the side, he already started off wrong and is not THAT into you.

8.If he has tried to talk to you...and all your friends at some point, he's not THAT into you....he's a thirsty

9.If he doesn't introduce you to ANYONE close to him (friends,family) he's not that into you hun.sorry.

10.If you are genetically gifted ( like the that's what she said and he wants to take you out only at events where he'll be seen with a beautiful lady...he's just showing you off, he's attracted to you but not INTO you.

****I know there's more, as always feel free to ADD on*****

Lesson to learn:

"Don't give him the chance to reject you again"-Greg Behrendt

Ladies, I really hope we get it together and realize that we are worth and DESERVE so much more than what we've benn getting. Look for the clues and listen to your instincts, because I truly believe that we know when something isn't right. Don't go against you instinct. Let's set our standards higher...and not settle. Find someone who is THAT into you and I guarantee you won't go back to the half ass men out there.In the words of the lovely Keyshia Cole : if he aint gonna love you the way he should, then let it go.Amen to that -thats what she said

-the one and only

1 comment:

  1. Trilla!!!!
    these are some good ones. specially #6(which i've done myself, only the girls i liked got the additional compliements) & #7