simple complication

so me and one of homies were having a deep conversation about relationships the other day and it really put life in perspective.........

our final conclusion: relationships will suck the life from your entire existence.

relationships can lead a confident and secure young lady to transform into a psyhco-paranoid-stalker-depressed-emotional-hotmess.com. im so confused @ why people do this to themselves particularly when they are young what is the point. just thinking about it is depressing.

so then u decide u wanna b released from the shackles and put ur single lady swag on just to find ur self to still be a psycho-paranoid-stalker-depressed-emotional-LONELY-hotmess.com. WTF !?!?!?!?! im convinced there is no way win. however i destined to figure this mess out. it seems so simple u meet some u like them they like u ......and the rest is history. but for some reason its never that easy. WHY??????? i hav no idea but when i find out yall will be the 1st to kno.

thats most definately what she said

Crush.

Hey guys the Queen Bee is finally recovering (barely) from our Fabulous Vaca on South Beach and CHILD I left with more than a tan and a hangover.

I came home with a Crush. Something I havent had in years.He is my type to the T. His honesty is refreshing, his accent is charming and I just want more.I can't believe I'm typing this (especially since he knows about the blog).

Its one of those things that bring you back to those highschool days. Sharing secrets on the phone, reminiscing on the SHORT time we spent together....AND guess what? He lives far far away! Just My Luck!

Well at least its the same coast. Anyways,as of now we are working out a way to see each other and see what happens. You know us ladies like to jump to conclusions but I'm happy right now just being happy TODAY, who knows what tomorrow will bring.

Honestly who knows where this goes but for the time being its So Very refreshing.


-QUEEN BEE

Tell 'Em Why You Mad Son

So we are back from MIA...all tanned and beautiful. Trust, we didn't want to leave and face reality.  But before we begin talkin about our trip, let me tell you of a situation that has already occurred. So my boo thing hits me up yesterday. Here is the convo as follows: 

Him: Yo wass good with all these n*ggas pic

Me: What are you talkin about? lol 

Him: I am not laughin, wtf. 

Me: Lol we were being stupid 

Him: Ok, I don't wanna hear that sh*t

Me: Aww baby, u know I missed you. 

Him: Whatever. Looks like u had a lil too much fun... 

[Two hours later]

Me: What are you doing up?

Him: Finding chicks in MIA

Me: Stupid. You busy? Can I call you?

Him: Call one of your Miami boos......Wit Some Ni**a in the club with his shirt up.

Me: But, I missed you baby. 

Him: Good night

hahahhaahha...He is salty.... I like when they get jealous.

Mission Accomplished. 

Thats what she said.

You Know it's a Recession When: Part 1

Im sorry, I know times are tough but some of this is just too much for me to take so I wanted to share with you all....sooo you know its a recession when.....

you have to shave your teddy bear to make a fur coat

you have money to throw on the bed (for your rent later) but none to buy a matress smh

you are 'ballin" in the club with one dollar bills 

you can only get enough weave for the bottom of your head 

you use a shopping carriage as the grill for the family BBQ

Thanks to mediatakout and youdeadazzwrong 

please please please, don't use this recession as an excuse to look a mess because you will be talked about, thats what she said

posted by: sucka for love 

We Takin Over, One City At A Time

The thats what she said ladies will be on a short hiatus as we take over the city of Miami...

I'm sure there will be stories to tell..

If you're in South Beach be on the look out for us, you won't be able to miss fly ladies like us 

Thats what she said

Spring Cleaning

That time of the year has come again. Time to set back your clock and declutter your life.

Most people like to clean out their homes of all the junk from the previous year.I like to do a little bit of cleaning in my space BUT more importantly, around this time or a little earlier than now I do some People Cleansing.

This is a time to get rid of all the dead weight people around with no real significance. A close friend of mines just went through a situation in which her family was the root of all her issues and causing too much unnecessary drama. My advice was for her to put herself and happiness first. Eventually she has let go and in the process of letting go all the extras she has found a new found freedom and strength I think.Now family is a touchy subject because you only get one BUT for the sake of one's own sanity sometimes you have to cut them off and hope that one day they can get it together.

Its a process of editing.the most important part of it is to NOT feel guilty. As I mentioned in a previous post, some people are seasonal and its important to not hold onto a person just because there is history. Its okay to let go and just keep the good memories without keeping the dead weight. And sometimes you outgrow relationships and once again its time to let them go. And this is for men,women,family, co workers, whatever.

It is equally important to not just put everyone on the chopping block.I'm not advising you to let a person go the at first sign of adversity. Sometimes you should give people a chance but of course not too many. And of course some people are just permanent and irreplacable. These are the people you keep for your sanity.

Soooo have you done any cleaning lately?


-Queen Bee

If That Boy Only Knew

Ladies, have you ever had a crush on somebody

 but know that it really only makes sense as a crush?

Ok, so I have a crush on this young boy. He is SOOO cute to me and no one else seems to see it, but that’s ok lol. On top of that I usually never like younger guys and he is like 3 years younger than me. I find myself checking out his facebook and looking forward to incidents where I may run into him, like a lil high school crush. I’m absolutely positive he has no idea that I am in the least bit interested in him.

For my ego’s sake I would kind of like to know if he is interested, but at the same time I just know there would be absolutely no point in ever saying anything to him or making a move (because of various circumstances), instead I’ll just continue to crush on him

That’s what she said

Posted by: Miss Boss

WHEN U NEED TO LET IT GO

CONVO GOES 9am..


where were u last night i called you
-i know i couldnt find my phone
what? how can u not find ya phone
-i was done off the patron & some kush
mmmm soo where was the party at???
-um in my living room with the flat screen and sports center
i can't, have a productive morning
-i am, already up cooking breakfast and smoking a blunt


I CANT LADIES
OUR SISTER FROM ANOTHER (KEYSHIA) SAID IT BEST
"LET IT GO"
THERE ARE NO WORDS TO DESCRIBE THIS
I WOULD SAY SHAMBLES
BUT THIS IS A STEP FURTHER

MAYBE "MAN DOWN" "CODE 10" "WE HAVE A PROBLEM AMERICA" "I NEED TO CHECK MY ITINERARY"
"WONT BE ABLE TO DATE HIM, HE CANT GET RIGHT" "ABSOUETLEY NOT"
"MOOMMMA THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID" WOULD THROW HER SHOE AT ME FOR EVEN CONVERSING WIT THIS HUMAN (THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID "HUMAN" )


ALL N ALL I JUST HAD TO SHARE THAT
I HAVE SOME MORE CONFESSIONS OF THIS HUMAN
BUT IT WILL COMEIN DUE TIME

5DAYS TIL I GO ON THE SEARCH FOR THE BIG BOSS RICK ROSS AND MAKE A DUO SINGLE WIT HIM
"BOSS"
FELLAS "HERE I AM"

Juicy is Back...

It has been a ridiculously hectic three weeks, but luckily I finally have one day where I can breathe, so on this off day I decided why not talk to you all. (I miss you, I really do!) and I know your guessing whats been going on with me so why not share =)

1. Since the Black man shows absolutely no love and/or appreciation for me(and because they are so quick to talk to everyone else besides the damn sistahs) I decided to try "Something New". So I've been talking to my friends about dating outside of our race and many (5 out of 7) have said that they love Black men too much to deviate. Now before you get ready to chop my neck off, don't get me wrong I love Black men as well but I figured Id give something else a try. So here's how it unfolded: I was on U street on one of my random walks only to be interrupted by an excuse me; thinking I was just in his way I moved to the side but he just stood there. So I'm like what the heck is this guys deal and he smiles and introduces himself as "Jason". At this point I was definetly still clueless but when he started talking I was like wait is he trying to holla at me? Needless to say after a few minutes and a compliment or two he asked for my number and text me that evening with a simple, "You're beautiful". Now Ive heard it all, but something about the word beautiful made me smile and we have been hanging out ever since. First outing was cool and anyone who knows me knows I love good food and sightseeing and thats exactly what we did, Second time around we hit a local bar for some drinks and dessert, the third time we came to my place (popcorn & a movie)...and we're still going strong. The conversation is awesome, I adore his style, and he is funny as hell, so I'm gonna keep him around.......guess I'll just have to wait and see.

2. Girls Girl Girls. Im gonna keep this one short cause if I don't I'll be talking forever. Someone who I thought was a very dear friend of mine BLAZED(i.e. played) me! Now, it takes alot for me to trust someone, like seriously alot, but as I stated before I have been working on that need for me to keep myself so secretive. I've been friends with the person for a little over four years now and talk about someone who I really thought was my twin. Needless to say our falling out has led me to revert to Queen Bee's post. Some people are seasonal....and she definetly was.

3. So I'm not sure if you all remember that young nigga who I thought would "sweep me off my feet". LOL. negative. He has been nothing but headache and I finally ditched his ass to the curb, only after he called me an evil bitch. Smh. Jonathan dont be so salty sweety.

4. Last but certainly not least. I have been on my Kanye's workout plan. 11 weeks left until graduation! woohooo. So you know Juicy has to look amazing.....

FYI: I promise to never keep you guys from whats been going on with me ever again. LOL.

Till Next Time

Yours Truly,
Juicy

Can I get a man like this?

I love this song.
Musiq always knows just what to say

That's what she said ...

Musiq Soulchild - "sobeautiful"

Say What You Need to Say....

This was originally going to be a post about FLAKY men, but after some thought I figured I'd do something more real and less entertaining.Plus I'm sure a lot of ladies feel like I do.

I have men issues.Most women do.And I titled this "Say what you need to say" because myself and countless other women don't communicate properly and effectively with the men they like and the men they don't like.

I, For one tried to just treat them all the same...BUT they are not all the same. They are not objects or toys (or comparable to food or shoes). They are individuals.

I envy men with the ability to keep it moving without any feelings. I tried and was successful a few times, however deep down I'm not like that.I can't keep it moving on everyone. That's just a recipe for a miserable, lonely old strange woman with 16 cats knitting in a rocking chair (lol). Or even worse: the BITTER BLACK WOMAN. I don't want to become that woman. I do believe in GOOD BLACK MEN.

I think this whole player lifestyle I've been living may have to rest because honestly I'm over it. I been there and done that. I don't like people playing games with me and so I won't play games in return.At the end of the day its still pretty lonely no matter how many men there are (which aren't even that many)

At the same time for ME to open up the gates and say"welcome come on in, feel free to hurt me"is hard. I guess I shouldn't always feel like someone is going to hurt me, BUT the last time I did let my guards down, that was the result and still is sometimes.

Nevertheless I am fully aware that I need to make some changes.Its called GROWTH and its a PROCESS.

Well that's what I needed to say and get off my chest
-QUEEN BEE

All My Pride Is All I Have

I wish i kept my pride. If I did, then I wouldn't be in the mess that I am into today. I am a firm believer in "hurt me once, shame on you, hurt me twice, shame on me". I am usually not one for giving second chances because I hold grudges. For example, I still do not talk to my half-sister because of something she said to me when I was four.  I usually have too much pride to allow someone back in my life after they hurt my feelings.

But isn't it funny how you give a guy that you like a second chance. Dammit, you give him three, four, or five  chances to get his act together. How many chances should you give a person? How many times should you forgive someone that you like or love for hurting our feelings? When trying to answer this question, I realized how many of us are addicted to pain. In Mario's "Let Me Love you", he asks the girl "do you enjoy being hurt?" Of course not, dummy!  Who enjoys being hurt? Of course, you hate getting our feelings hurt. But if you constantly allow your feelings to get hurt, wouldn't you become addicted to the pain.  

Addicted is when you devote or surrender to something habitually. When you expect him to mess up or you continuously excuse or ignore his unfaithful behavior you ultimately  surrender to getting your feelings hurt habitually and subconsciously. We get so addicted to the pain that despite the hurt feelings, we get over it and afford him six, seven, and infinite amount of chances to get his act together. No you are not a good person for forgiving him, instead, you are an idiot for staying with him. Do like J.Lo! Leave him and the pain behind! Get your pride back and dont let him and his stupidity phase you...Thats What She Said

Sincerely, 

Mookie

Running Circles in my Mind

Ladies, what do you do with a man that continues to pop up in your mind?
Sometimes he's there, sometimes he's not. Other times, you cant help but think, "Damn I want him" and then there are other times where you think, "Why in the hell do I pay him any attention?". Well I seem to have one of those fellas in my life right now. He's cool and pretty funny but for the most part I can't help but wonder how in the hell did he get under my skin?!?

I just don't know what to do with him or my thoughts. I thought that I would let my mind just wander and see where it falls, but it keeps coming back to this idea of me and him that's not at all clear - what am I supposed to do with that? How do I clear up this image in my mind? Is there even a clear and straightforward answer?

In the meantime, I think I'll just enjoy the ride - it's been fun so far. Plus he doesn't seem to show any signs of anything more than what it is right now so why should I? I figure I'll play it cool, there's nothing to sweat over anyway... right?!?
That's what she said...


~ Sugar, Spice, & Everything Nice

Thats Actually Kind of Annoying

everyone has them, they creep up at the worst times, they led to far too many break-ups and divorces, you know what they are PET PEEVES....

My solution, let people know your pet peeves in advance so they can try not to do them in front of you, here are mine...

1. cracking knuckles, spine, neck, or any other bones--its gross and you will have arthritis when you are old. Please keep your crackly bones away from me because the sound grosses me out
2. talking loudly for no reason--we are grown, there's no need to yell or talk over people just to make yourself seen and/or heard, it actually makes me not want to listen to anything you're saying at all
3. evading questions--if I ask you a question and you don't want to answer it just say so, don't try to switch the subject like I'm a dummy and won't remember that I just asked you a question
4. hairy legs/armpits--I am all for female empowerment but please not at the expense of your hygiene, no one wants to see hairy legs or armpits out and about so either cover it up or grab some Nair please and thank you
5. illiterate text messages--Im all for "lol"s and "jk"s but there is no reason for you to use slang that is actually longer than the word itself and at the end of the day it makes you look like you just don't know how to spell, maybe you don't
6. traffic--unless there is an accident I don't understand where it comes from and I honestly feel like if everyone just drove it would go away--and what are the people at the front of the traffic doing
7. not allowing yourself to be rejected--if you try to talk to me and I tell you I have a boyfriend that means NO, so please do not go on and on about why we can be friends or ask me "what does your man have to do with me"...your game is wack and I don't want you
8. trying to play me once you are rejected--the whole you're not that cute anyway response to getting rejected not only confirms that you were lame and I shouldn't have talked to you, but it also adds another notch to your lameness
9. waxed eyebrows on guys--I just don't like it, unless you have a unibrow leave em natural, you're a man so be MASCULINE please 
10. tattooing your significant others name on your body--maybe I missed the memo, but last time I checked your average relationship lasts about a year, but the "Tyquan" tramp stamp on your back will last a lifetime smh 

Now I know I do a ton of stuff that gets on everyone else's nerves so please list those pet peeves of your here!!

thats what she said

posted by: sucka for love 

every sunday i be on the same new shit

ITS SUNDAY

OF COURSE I FOUND NO TIME TO DO WORK THIS WEEKEND

my bed consists of pink & orange pillows, the comcast channel guide, my laptop, and A HOST OF BOOKS ON JUVENILE DELINQUENCY (YES THATSWHATSHESAID) JUVENILE DELINQUENCIES

I HAVE A LITERATURE REVIEW TO DO FOR MY THESIS

BOUT 10 PAGES

IM PRAYIN FOR A SNOW DAY

IM BASICALLY SHAMBLING OUT

everything is tellin me to go to nyc like right now

im texting the old thang (the very intellectual one, school teacher

i feel bad cuz im totally tellin him how deep in my studies i AM

suddenly i get ichat, u no that computer love request

its a hi school friend i call my brother

i accept

(of course SHE GOT A DONK PT. 2 IS BLASTING LIKE TRIPLE OD)

i look into the screen, the screen looks at me

its not my "brother"

its that intellectual, smart mouth school teacher

ugh

(since when do they hang out?????)

this man told me vividly and bluntly 

"you been doin the same shit since '04, iknew your ass wasnt doin no work....MAN UP...(he pauses and smiles wit his sexy ass and continues).....WELL ATLEAST YOU WERENT LISTENING TO TRIP DRILL LIKE U ALWAYS DO"

LADIES, I CNT

IMA GET MY SHIT TOGETHER (ALL AROUND)

PAUSE

NO IM NOT SAYING IM BOUT TO DO MY SCHOOL WORK

IM BOUT TO GET BACK WIT BABY BOY!

LET'S PLAN FOR A WEDDING BY '11.

THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID LADIES