Untitled.

Some days you wake up with this feeling of meaning to life. You get up with ease and the world seems to be on your side. Today was my day. I did things I've been meaning to do for a while, I had more motivation than usual and Overall I was just happy...for no reason.
And wouldn't you know that later on in the day I discovered that my Grandfather, whom I love dearly was diagnosed with CANCER. As weird as it seems I wasn't as sad/mad/emotional as I thought I would be ( I knew it was a possibility).
Now why, I thought on a day going so well would I get this horrid news? Because my outlook today was so positive,I was filled with THAT much more faith than I would have had on a regular day. After all cancer does not equal death anymore, he has no expiration date.

But nevertheless, apart of me is still thinking about the other outcome of which I will not speak into the universe. The only thing I know is that everyday I am going to celebrate, appreciate and be thankful for every second that he's here.

Today was a good day though. Ps. Keep him in your prayers guys.

Second Chances

For a long time I was not a believer in second chances. I was the type to erase your number, block you on facebook and aim if you crossed me in the slightest way. However, this pattern left me burning a lot bridges and missing a lot of people.

 At the end of the day everyone makes mistakes so although it may seem like I'm getting soft I think I'm just realizing that people can't ask for forgiveness if you block them from any point of access to you, and in blocking them you may be missing out on a good person who made one mistake. I don't think I'm getting soft, I think I'm just growing up

The more I think about it the more I realize the amount of chances that others have given me for the often egregious mistakes I've made. I'm a strong believer in karma so if I don't offer forgiveness then I might not be forgiven for the future mistakes I'm certain to make. 

Moral of the story, he's getting a second chance and I don't care what anyone thinks about it ;) I'll let you all know if the second chance was worth it

that's what she said 

I Co-Sign

If you haven't gotten up on the mixtapes you definitely are missing out 

Unofficial Girl

un.of.fi.cial girl 

n. a woman who is in a relationship where although they often act like they are a couple there is no true commitment to each other 

Many of us have been in this situation and the more I see it the more I think it is doomed for failure.  At first it always seems like a perfect set-up, you both enjoy the benefits of a relationship (intimacy, dates, time spent together, someone to talk to and look forward to hearing from), but it is those same things that cause flaws in the relationship--acting like you're with someone makes you care about them. 

The longer this goes on the more likely you are to catch serious feelings for the person. However, its usually at this point where the down sides of being an "unofficial girl" come into play--there's no commitment. So now you have feelings for this person but they can talk to whoever they want

The combination of these forces creates a situation destined for failure and at the end of the day although it was a fun ride what do you really end up with? 

Although I certainly think there are cases where this relationship can end with the two being friends and without hard feelings I think the longer it goes on the more likely the two are to catch feelings and end up hurting one another

All I'm saying is that although it seems like its all in good fun take a second thought before falling into being his unofficial girl 

thats what she said 

by the way, I love this video, regardless to the fact that she can't sing

Sweetest Nothing

Sometimes we meet a guy
and we hope,wish,pray
That he will be Everything...
The ending promised to us
As little girls
When we learned that every story ends
With a Happily Ever After...
I was not a fairy tale girl
And yet still I CRAVE
Something deep...something sweet
But if this special something
Isn't something at all...
I'll know that this was
The SWEETEST little NOTHING


Just how I'm feelin

$1500 a week though

while walking out of the car a man in a Dodge Charger rolls down his window and hands my friend a flyer. She doesn't look at the flyer until she enters the restaurant guessing it is for a party, when she does open the flyer it reads:

"NOW HIRING, MODELS, STRIPPERS, ESCORTS, and PORNSTARS, $1500/wk" with a picture of a video looking chic right in the middle 

all we could do was bust out laughing while trying to make sure the "pimp" in the car didn't see us. 

as we told the story to another friend she laughed and then with a serious face asked "$1,500 a week though" LOL get your money girl LMAO

thats what she said

I need help! I like this guy and I have no idea what to do with that, lol.
He makes me laugh, we have fun together, and things seem so simple and peaceful.
But I'm having some issues 1) I don't know what I want and 2) there's another dude!
What's a girl to do?!? lol.

So I know most people would tell me to figure out what I want first and then plan from there - well how in the hell do i do that? I want a lot, damnit I want my cake and I wanna eat it too! But obviously I can't do that.

Right now the only things I know I want are: to be happy, to have fun, to enjoy my time, and to continue trying to reach my personal goals. Where do either one of these dudes stand in that, I have no clue!

Help . . .
That's What She Said

liar liar pants on fire ....lol

Im sure this topic has been discussed b4 but i cannot resist.

I CANT STAND LIARS. OMG......i dont get it ...it aggravates me. Not to say I have never a told a lie b4 because honestly sometimes its necessary. However, there are just some lies that people can keep. I think what gets me the most is when people lie about things as if i have no way of finding out the truth. Do u take me for a fool.........i guess so. I cant help but laugh because they went thru all the trouble of lying about something that i could careless about. I find it hilarious that u think i care that much ...lmao. Fellas ......ur not smarter than us [granted there are some DUMB broads out there]. If u think u getting away wit ur lies its cus we let u or we just dont give a damn. MAN UP!!!!!! please ....there is nothing more sorry and pathetic than a dude who lies. If u gone be a pimp own that ish. If u broke just take the L and say so. There is nthn worse than a broke dude tryna fake lik he got it. If u dont want a commitment say so. If u aint really feeling her keep it real. But seriously keep it 100 a woman will respect u so much more trust me.


Im confident that's what she said

Yours Truly

In case you haven't noticed many of the recent posts are lacking the signatures you've come to love. 

In an effort to protect the innocent, or often the guilty, we have decided to remove signatures from many of the posts.

Yours Truly,

thats what she said ladies 

Am I Superficial

Recently I was talking to some friends about a two different guys that I used to talk to in the past. Both were cute, funny, and genuinely interested in me. When my girls asked why didn't it go further with either one of them I responded, "I could never take him seriously, he's short". They looked at me with disgust and proceeded to tell me how I was superficial.

To me that statement didn't feel superficial at all. I don't have very many "musts" in the looks department for guys except the fact that they have to be tall. I mean thats not to say some shorty couldn't come sweep me off my feet, but in terms of what I'm looking for I want someone tall. 

So the question remains, is having standards in the looks department of the opposite sex superficial or is it just going after what you like? What are some standards that you won't budge on?

thats what she said

All this Relationship Advice!

So as I write this I am watching Tyra show (guilty pleasure) and she has Steve Harvey, this chick and these other two chicks (wow I'm really paying attention) who all have books out on Relationships.

I don't know about you all but I will NEVER spend 1 penny on a book like that...I admit it is a little intriguing to see all these theories and guidelines...but that is my BIGGEST issue.At this age I am beginning to realize that all the "rules" and "regulations" we once followed are becoming silly.

I feel like in general we do need a few of the basics which are the following: STANDARDS is the main one, I feel like if u don't set them high you'll settle for anything. COMMON SENSE is the second, its important to not let your brain get soooo focused on craving a relationship that you start doing some uncompromising things. Bottomline NEVER compromise your integrity. Also PATIENCE is a virtue! I personally feel like you shouldn't go looking for a relationship, because generally if you are focused on something it will appear...the only problemis you might find a man but most likely he'll be the WRONG one. Instead you just enjoy life and I bet when you least expect it, you'll find someone special. And because men are visual creatures appearance is important.Ladies try to look good: for YOU first and he'll def appreciate the beauty.

So I realized that what this entry first critisized is what I wrote: Relationship Advice!!!! Sue me I'm a hypocrite SO WHAT!lol at least my advice is simple, and free. But I have one last piece before I let you go and that one thing is LOVE YOURSELF!!!!! And I think you'll be OKAY :)


The One and Only
-Queen Bee

simple complication

so me and one of homies were having a deep conversation about relationships the other day and it really put life in perspective.........

our final conclusion: relationships will suck the life from your entire existence.

relationships can lead a confident and secure young lady to transform into a psyhco-paranoid-stalker-depressed-emotional-hotmess.com. im so confused @ why people do this to themselves particularly when they are young what is the point. just thinking about it is depressing.

so then u decide u wanna b released from the shackles and put ur single lady swag on just to find ur self to still be a psycho-paranoid-stalker-depressed-emotional-LONELY-hotmess.com. WTF !?!?!?!?! im convinced there is no way win. however i destined to figure this mess out. it seems so simple u meet some u like them they like u ......and the rest is history. but for some reason its never that easy. WHY??????? i hav no idea but when i find out yall will be the 1st to kno.

thats most definately what she said

Crush.

Hey guys the Queen Bee is finally recovering (barely) from our Fabulous Vaca on South Beach and CHILD I left with more than a tan and a hangover.

I came home with a Crush. Something I havent had in years.He is my type to the T. His honesty is refreshing, his accent is charming and I just want more.I can't believe I'm typing this (especially since he knows about the blog).

Its one of those things that bring you back to those highschool days. Sharing secrets on the phone, reminiscing on the SHORT time we spent together....AND guess what? He lives far far away! Just My Luck!

Well at least its the same coast. Anyways,as of now we are working out a way to see each other and see what happens. You know us ladies like to jump to conclusions but I'm happy right now just being happy TODAY, who knows what tomorrow will bring.

Honestly who knows where this goes but for the time being its So Very refreshing.


-QUEEN BEE

Tell 'Em Why You Mad Son

So we are back from MIA...all tanned and beautiful. Trust, we didn't want to leave and face reality.  But before we begin talkin about our trip, let me tell you of a situation that has already occurred. So my boo thing hits me up yesterday. Here is the convo as follows: 

Him: Yo wass good with all these n*ggas pic

Me: What are you talkin about? lol 

Him: I am not laughin, wtf. 

Me: Lol we were being stupid 

Him: Ok, I don't wanna hear that sh*t

Me: Aww baby, u know I missed you. 

Him: Whatever. Looks like u had a lil too much fun... 

[Two hours later]

Me: What are you doing up?

Him: Finding chicks in MIA

Me: Stupid. You busy? Can I call you?

Him: Call one of your Miami boos......Wit Some Ni**a in the club with his shirt up.

Me: But, I missed you baby. 

Him: Good night

hahahhaahha...He is salty.... I like when they get jealous.

Mission Accomplished. 

Thats what she said.

You Know it's a Recession When: Part 1

Im sorry, I know times are tough but some of this is just too much for me to take so I wanted to share with you all....sooo you know its a recession when.....

you have to shave your teddy bear to make a fur coat

you have money to throw on the bed (for your rent later) but none to buy a matress smh

you are 'ballin" in the club with one dollar bills 

you can only get enough weave for the bottom of your head 

you use a shopping carriage as the grill for the family BBQ

Thanks to mediatakout and youdeadazzwrong 

please please please, don't use this recession as an excuse to look a mess because you will be talked about, thats what she said

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