All My Pride Is All I Have

I wish i kept my pride. If I did, then I wouldn't be in the mess that I am into today. I am a firm believer in "hurt me once, shame on you, hurt me twice, shame on me". I am usually not one for giving second chances because I hold grudges. For example, I still do not talk to my half-sister because of something she said to me when I was four.  I usually have too much pride to allow someone back in my life after they hurt my feelings.

But isn't it funny how you give a guy that you like a second chance. Dammit, you give him three, four, or five  chances to get his act together. How many chances should you give a person? How many times should you forgive someone that you like or love for hurting our feelings? When trying to answer this question, I realized how many of us are addicted to pain. In Mario's "Let Me Love you", he asks the girl "do you enjoy being hurt?" Of course not, dummy!  Who enjoys being hurt? Of course, you hate getting our feelings hurt. But if you constantly allow your feelings to get hurt, wouldn't you become addicted to the pain.  

Addicted is when you devote or surrender to something habitually. When you expect him to mess up or you continuously excuse or ignore his unfaithful behavior you ultimately  surrender to getting your feelings hurt habitually and subconsciously. We get so addicted to the pain that despite the hurt feelings, we get over it and afford him six, seven, and infinite amount of chances to get his act together. No you are not a good person for forgiving him, instead, you are an idiot for staying with him. Do like J.Lo! Leave him and the pain behind! Get your pride back and dont let him and his stupidity phase you...Thats What She Said

Sincerely, 

Mookie

Running Circles in my Mind

Ladies, what do you do with a man that continues to pop up in your mind?
Sometimes he's there, sometimes he's not. Other times, you cant help but think, "Damn I want him" and then there are other times where you think, "Why in the hell do I pay him any attention?". Well I seem to have one of those fellas in my life right now. He's cool and pretty funny but for the most part I can't help but wonder how in the hell did he get under my skin?!?

I just don't know what to do with him or my thoughts. I thought that I would let my mind just wander and see where it falls, but it keeps coming back to this idea of me and him that's not at all clear - what am I supposed to do with that? How do I clear up this image in my mind? Is there even a clear and straightforward answer?

In the meantime, I think I'll just enjoy the ride - it's been fun so far. Plus he doesn't seem to show any signs of anything more than what it is right now so why should I? I figure I'll play it cool, there's nothing to sweat over anyway... right?!?
That's what she said...


~ Sugar, Spice, & Everything Nice

Thats Actually Kind of Annoying

everyone has them, they creep up at the worst times, they led to far too many break-ups and divorces, you know what they are PET PEEVES....

My solution, let people know your pet peeves in advance so they can try not to do them in front of you, here are mine...

1. cracking knuckles, spine, neck, or any other bones--its gross and you will have arthritis when you are old. Please keep your crackly bones away from me because the sound grosses me out
2. talking loudly for no reason--we are grown, there's no need to yell or talk over people just to make yourself seen and/or heard, it actually makes me not want to listen to anything you're saying at all
3. evading questions--if I ask you a question and you don't want to answer it just say so, don't try to switch the subject like I'm a dummy and won't remember that I just asked you a question
4. hairy legs/armpits--I am all for female empowerment but please not at the expense of your hygiene, no one wants to see hairy legs or armpits out and about so either cover it up or grab some Nair please and thank you
5. illiterate text messages--Im all for "lol"s and "jk"s but there is no reason for you to use slang that is actually longer than the word itself and at the end of the day it makes you look like you just don't know how to spell, maybe you don't
6. traffic--unless there is an accident I don't understand where it comes from and I honestly feel like if everyone just drove it would go away--and what are the people at the front of the traffic doing
7. not allowing yourself to be rejected--if you try to talk to me and I tell you I have a boyfriend that means NO, so please do not go on and on about why we can be friends or ask me "what does your man have to do with me"...your game is wack and I don't want you
8. trying to play me once you are rejected--the whole you're not that cute anyway response to getting rejected not only confirms that you were lame and I shouldn't have talked to you, but it also adds another notch to your lameness
9. waxed eyebrows on guys--I just don't like it, unless you have a unibrow leave em natural, you're a man so be MASCULINE please 
10. tattooing your significant others name on your body--maybe I missed the memo, but last time I checked your average relationship lasts about a year, but the "Tyquan" tramp stamp on your back will last a lifetime smh 

Now I know I do a ton of stuff that gets on everyone else's nerves so please list those pet peeves of your here!!

thats what she said

posted by: sucka for love 

every sunday i be on the same new shit

ITS SUNDAY

OF COURSE I FOUND NO TIME TO DO WORK THIS WEEKEND

my bed consists of pink & orange pillows, the comcast channel guide, my laptop, and A HOST OF BOOKS ON JUVENILE DELINQUENCY (YES THATSWHATSHESAID) JUVENILE DELINQUENCIES

I HAVE A LITERATURE REVIEW TO DO FOR MY THESIS

BOUT 10 PAGES

IM PRAYIN FOR A SNOW DAY

IM BASICALLY SHAMBLING OUT

everything is tellin me to go to nyc like right now

im texting the old thang (the very intellectual one, school teacher

i feel bad cuz im totally tellin him how deep in my studies i AM

suddenly i get ichat, u no that computer love request

its a hi school friend i call my brother

i accept

(of course SHE GOT A DONK PT. 2 IS BLASTING LIKE TRIPLE OD)

i look into the screen, the screen looks at me

its not my "brother"

its that intellectual, smart mouth school teacher

ugh

(since when do they hang out?????)

this man told me vividly and bluntly 

"you been doin the same shit since '04, iknew your ass wasnt doin no work....MAN UP...(he pauses and smiles wit his sexy ass and continues).....WELL ATLEAST YOU WERENT LISTENING TO TRIP DRILL LIKE U ALWAYS DO"

LADIES, I CNT

IMA GET MY SHIT TOGETHER (ALL AROUND)

PAUSE

NO IM NOT SAYING IM BOUT TO DO MY SCHOOL WORK

IM BOUT TO GET BACK WIT BABY BOY!

LET'S PLAN FOR A WEDDING BY '11.

THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID LADIES

9 days until

THATS WHAT SHE SAID

IS GOING TO MIAMI

YES, LAND OF THE BIG BOSS RICKY ROSS

COURT OF D WAYNE

AND

THE BADDEST BITCH TRINA

WITH THAT BEING SAID

I MAY ESCAPE SOUTH BEACH GET LOST  N LIL HAITI

DANCE WIT A GUY WHO HAS GOLD, SILVER, AND DIAMONDS IN HIS MOUTH

ill come from the club, shoulder leaning,  swim in the ocean without tying the hair

(no wonders QUEEN B ALWAYS HAS A STASH TO HOLD US DOWN LADIES)

DO MY DANCE ON WET WILLIES TABLE

POSE N FRONT OF THE VER' MANSON

make friends wit a lil cuban guy

THEN  eventuallly TRAVEL N TO DADE COUNTY HOE

rick ross said it best when he said "THIS IS THE LIFE"

ALLL WILL BE GREAT!

BUT THE MORAL OF THE STORY

BLAME IT ON THE.......

~wavy baby

To TRY and to fail.

Try, to me is such a powerful word. In one sense its a beautiful thing. In life I believe you should try new things in order to grow. You can't truly be successful at anything until you've tried it. The beginning of every new venture has to start with you trying it out.

However, try has also led to unmet potential and dead ends. There is a WORLD of difference between TRYING and DOING.one can always TRY to change their life....but its not the same as actually CHANGING their life. I think the thing between trying and doing is struggle.

Usually anything we try is going to be challenging. Once we've gotten through the hard part we can then come to the point of accomplishment.

So today's advice is to try to stop trying. Lol, let's start doing and stop trying to do. This may be one of the only pieces of advice I'll take from myself.:)


The one and only
#QUEEN BEE

Thats what friends are for.

This is a thread out of the ordinary for me.I guess you can say I'm pretty emotional (don't worry I'm okay) but I'm sitting here fully club clothed, hair done, make up flawless...fighting back tears.

Now I had a pretty rough week. I feel like everybody has been pushing me and I'm on the edge. It was just one of those weeks where you feel a little defeated.

Anyways to get to the point one of my best friends had a birthday last week and couldn't celebrate then because of an illness. Now LAST week I was in party mode. THIS week not so much.however she said she was throwing a gathering tonite and of course I'm gonna show love.

Now the unexpected happened and she actually lost her grandmother yesterday...and wanted to still get together and go out just to get her mind off of things...and of course I said yes, that's what friends are for.

She then hands me a present wrapped ingift wrap. Immediately I kind of figure its a picture frame but I had no idea what was inside: a collage of us two over the years and a very special heartfelt note. I burst into tears. Honestly after the week I had, that was just what I needed. And That is what friends are for.

-QUEEN BEE

Is food the New Sex???

So I'm bored at work reading the local Newspaper when I come across an article which was not at all interesting once began to read in depth, but the topic really sparked my interest.

Question: Is food the new SEX?

Are we now in a world where you are more likely to be condemned by your caloric intake then by the number of guys you sleep with?

I am by no means justifying that one gets judged by either, I could personally care less about how much someone eats or by who they sleep with....BUT it seems since obesity has been on the rise, people are less likely to look down on "sluts" and more likely to have their noses turned up to the um "larger" people.

Soooo my personal opinions are the following:
1. Since Obesity is on the rise....and so is a nation full of narcissitic wanna be perfectionists, people are more likely to condemn another over shallow reasons like weight.

2. Since we are becoming a more Sexually Liberated country, the condemnation of sex, premarital in particular is becoming less and less important...unless you're Gay. Whole other subject.

3. Not blaming MTV but I'm just gonna use them to generalize all tv networks.... We are in the MTV generation, which shows and glorifies sex, girls kissing girls on tv and just overall sluttiness...but how many big girls do we see??? Lesson: is okay to be slutty trash...just be attractive and fit.

Okay guys I'm sure there's more but I guess I should get back to doing actual work.

As always if u have more, feel free to leave a comment.

The one and only
QUEEN BEE

How to REALLY lose a guy in ten days (or less)

Something recently made me think of the movie "How to lose a guy in ten days" I didn't see the movie but I know one thing: he ended up falling for her...which meant whatever her rules were, wasn't enough.lol.

I'm here to bring you ladies the REAL way to guarantee that no sensible Ninja will ever really be with you. I guess doing these lists are my thing, so here goes another one....


How to REALLY lose a guy in ten days (or less)

1.Text and call him at LEAST 7 times....an hour!

2.Send him "I miss you's" and "thinking of you's" on his facebook/myspace wall EVERYDAY

3.Laugh at ALL his jokes, agree with EVERYTHING he says. Conform,conform,conform

4.Don't be yourself AT ALL! Hide everything about you that makes you unique

5.Act perfectly...check mirrors every chance you get...oh and don't kiss him, it'll mess up the M.A.C

6.Sleep with him the first date....and tell him you love him afterwards.lol

7.Check his phone, email,facebook.myspace. Question everything

8.Make sure you bring all your past relationship issues into this new one!

9.Don't accept ANY compliment. You are fat,ugly and don't deserve nice words.

10.Compare yourself to every woman out there he knows, on t.v, outside,etc.

11. Cling,cling,cling...

12. Tell him ur REAL partner number...girl just say it was four, we all have a few that don't count.lol

13. Flirt with his friends!


I'm not gonna personally try this experiment but I'm almost 100 percent sure it'll definetely get rid of any sane man out there. As always feel free to add on.

I'm back B*tches
QUEEN BEE

HE'S MY AGE , Y NOT

u seen bow wow new video?

baby (he) can get it all

The Prototype

The other day a friend of mine had a status referring to throwback Outkast song, "Prototype", that got me thinking.....

My Prototype: tall, dark, handsome, funny, streetsmart and booksmart, goal oriented, and FLY

Now that I found him, I don't know what to do

I think about this and wonder why? I have been talking to this guy for a while now, let's call him "Prototype", he is my prototype to the T and some, but there's something about him that makes me apprehensive about taking things further and really opening up. For a while I thought it was because I was scared to eventually be rejected by him, but now I'm seeing thats not the case (he's feeling your girl lol)

Thanks to the situation of a friend, I've come to realize that I don't want him because he symbolizes the end--If he and I became a couple there would be no reason we shouldn't get married and have a bunch of gorgeous babies by all the typical standards, but I don't want that at this point in my life. And if I get with him and it doesn't work, I'm pretty sure I'll never find anyone who's a better "package" and I'll be walking down the aisle in 10 years thinking about how I could have had "prototype" instead. 

Now I know these thoughts are EXTREMELY preemptive, but this is what women do, we over analyze things, and it makes perfect sense to me.

So in this situation what am I supposed to do, take a shot at a good thing and settle down, or regret it later on?

thats what she said 

posted by: sucka for love 

I'm the best thing that ever happened to you

Ladies, I want to conduct an experiment.

Background:  I met this guy in December and he seems pretty cool. But i never paid him much attention until now. I knew that he had a nice car and a job..and he was decent looking from what I can remember. But, I started becoming interested in him when I finally accepted his friend request on MySpace. I went through his page, pictures, and videos. Even though he was still decent looking, I realized he was some hood ni**a who never left his six block radius. I usually try to stay away from the hood tyoes now because I always end up finding the crazy ones. Two of them ended up in jail for attempted murder. But anyway, he had the usual pictures and videos of him counting his money and showing off his jewelry. Now this may be the "bird" in me and/or "gold-digger" (Pick which ever one you find applicable), but I decided to enhance communication with this guy and upgrade from text messages to phone calls. After a couple of phone calls, I figured that he was a really nice and funny.  I decided to give him some of my time. Anyway, i don't want him for his money. 'Cuz I have my own. But it wouldn't hurt to spend someone else's for a change.

Objective: This study will examine how to make a guy realize that you are the best thing to ever happen to him.

Hypothesis: By broadening his horizons, eliminating his insecurities, and doing stuff for him that no other girl has ever done for him, you will make him think that you are the best thing to ever happen to him. 

Methods: Like I said, this is some hood n***a who never left his six block radius. But he does look like he has potential to be upgraded. After talking to him, I found out that our b-days were 2 days apart. I told him that I would take him out to dinner for his birthday. He said " really? that would be the first!" He sounded so surprise. "Well thats because you talk to birds." He said that I sounded like a keeper. (+1). Anyway, I told him I would take him somewhere chic...some good authentic Japanese Habachi place or some french bistro. I realized I had to introduce him to something classy-something no one has ever probably done for him. 

Analysis: By spending money on him first, he probably wouldn't assume that you are a gold digger. Actually, he will think you are a generous person. As a result, he wouldn't mind spoiling you cuz he thinks you would do it for him and you are unlike the other bird heads that he talks to. 

Results: Well this is an on going study and once I find some more hood ni***as, this will become a cross sectional study. Stay tuned....Well thats what she said...

Regards, 

-Samantha Jones

GREAT WAY TO START YOUR WEEK OFF

IM NOT A MORNING PERSON, NEVER WAS & 850'S KICK MY ASS

SO I TRY TO MAKE IT MY BUSINESS TO TRY TO MAKE IT TO MY 850'S ATLEAST 4 TIMES A MONTH...

THIS MRNNG WAS MY 2ND:

i walk out house, sleepy eyed, sweats, gym sneakers, and a juicy laptop case (hey something had to be fly)

as i go to lock my door....

i suddenly trip over my step

fall into the bush next to my door

the bush is not sturdy; so of course my head eventually went in

and i ended up on my knees and elbows

sooo as i look up

i see this Asian guy and his daughter (she couldnt be no older than 3)

he 's asks me n his strong accent "ARE YOU OKAY"

SHE WIT HER LIL FINGERS...POINTS AT ME N SMILE

I COULD DONOTHING BUT GET UP DUST MY DUSTY ASS OFF 

TELL MYSELF IM SHAMBING OUT

AND PLAY "SOOO FLY" ON MY IPOD

HAVE A GREAT WEEK LADIES

~WAVY BABY

Seasons Change

"They say people live their life in seasons and everything that happens is for a reason"- Kanye West

As the end of this brutal winter slowly begins to wrap up, I ponder about seasons changing...in life that is.

In my attempts to change for the "better",I really try to have the Seasons mentality...and I find that it really helps me put things in perspective.

For example, when a friendship ends, it is easier to cope witht the loss once you realize that that person was there for a season. The thing to do after that realization is to think of all the things you learned from that person. Good or bad,everything that came from that situation is beneficial to your future, because now you know what to do and what not to do next time.

A brief example of this seasons theory is an old roomate of mines. I'm not going to get into the details or backround of that person, but let's just say I learned a lot about myself after the friendship ended. I found a few strengths and weeknesses of my own in which I had to confront myself with. if I could relive my life and change things I wouldn't because these are the types of things that shape who we are. And for that person its easier to remember the worse things about her but at some point in time she was a big part of my life and I can look back and laugh at the good times and then turn around and appreciate my own self growth.

So to finish the entry with a little knowledge, just want u guys to try to put things into a "seasons" perspective, it really helps getting over negative things in life and especially when relationships end.

I truly believe that every person in my life has significant purpose.-thats what she said



The one and only
-QUEEN Bee

I'm Not from BK, but this goes hard

This part goes hard:

My girl Angie can't be a groupie or whore

She bout gettin money in her juicy couture

Do she get bored with the Gucci of course

So the Louis she sports til it aint new anymore

Then she cop another one makin hoes gettin madder

Gettin more money so the price don't matter

Ain't seen her in a minute know her ass got fatter

And if you think she bad then her friends are way badder

And this part reminds me of Shana which is funny lol:

I gotta friend named Shayna

She like Bill Bellamy and how to be a player

Shorty is a player can't nobody play her

Can't nobody game her cause she aint a gamer

Baby girl ballin kinda like the Lakers

If you would trade her like Shaq then see ya later

Player she do it so easy it's kinda like a layup

She could lay up wit your boy wit no make up

thats what she said